[Verbiage]

Originally Posted by MediaArtist

I don't know, persian54 seems to think his open relationship is pretty successful.

Probably. They may work well for some people. But that whole concept makes absolutely no sense in my opinion. How old are you supposed to be with that thinking, 16? If you want an open relationship, then stay single.


A rare MediaArtist appearance.

[JayKay335i]

I smashed OPs woman.

[NYCGP]

Originally Posted by JayKay335i

No no no. Gasoline doesn't burn hot enough.

You don't want to burn the person at all... fingers, teeth, face. Deep hole. Rinse and Repeat.

[Verbiage]

Originally Posted by NYCGP

wait.. you're in high school. Azns are strange. Talking about marriage at age 18 is just ridiculous.

Seriously? WTF. I didn't even notice that. And I just guessed an age in a previous post lol.

[FDfranklin]

Originally Posted by Bavarian III

Seriously? WTF. I didn't even notice that. And I just guessed an age in a previous post lol.

I thought he said he graduated from college, but I was just skimming his 10 page essay.

[Verbiage]

That really is a SUPER long post, though.

[MediaArtist]

Originally Posted by Bavarian III

Probably. They may work well for some people. But that whole concept makes absolutely no sense in my opinion. How old are you supposed to be with that thinking, 16? If you want an open relationship, then stay single.


A rare MediaArtist appearance.

I actually agree. I think open relationships are a waste of time. I just find it hard to believe you can foster an atmosphere of trust in an open relationship.

As for the OP, I can only say that dating all the women who didn't work out for me, made me appreciate, even more, the one I eventually married.

[Verbiage]

Originally Posted by MediaArtist

I actually agree. I think open relationships are a waste of time. I just find it hard to believe you can foster an atmosphere of trust in an open relationship.

As for the OP, I can only say that dating all the women who didn't work out for me, made me appreciate, even more, the one I eventually married.

/thread

[coh4777]

OP, your situation sounds pretty similar to something I went through several years ago, including the family relations. You seem like a pretty good guy, but this girl is walking all over you. Get out ASAP. Some girls are simply so unreasonable and selfish that a healthy relationship with them is impossible. I know it sucks right now, but believe me, after a few months you are going to look back on all this and feel nothing but relief for having gotten out of that relationship. Focus on work, hang out with your true friends and of course hit as many hot chicks as possible. It worked for me!

On a separate note, relating to your first point about her hanging out with guy friends, I have to kind of agree with her viewpoint. Just because two people are in a serious committed relationship does not mean that they have to give up their past of their friends. It's part of who they are and if you can't accept that then you shouldn't be with that person. As an earlier poster said, you gotta give the other person their space. It's such a bad look to be all jealous and clingy, especially for a guy to be that way. Obviously if you know for a fact that there was something shady going on, then that's a different case, but otherwise just be chill about it. Just something to think about for your next relationship...

[coh4777]

Originally Posted by JayKay335i

If I'm dating somebody I am dating them. It would be a waste of time and energy to cheat and I would just break up with them. I tell girls that before I date them.

So true. I tell all my gf's the same thing.

[CollinsE90]

Originally Posted by ferrari355fi

Collins fucked the OP's gf. Thread over.

and got to cross Asian off my fucket list too

[NYCGP]

Originally Posted by CollinsE90

and got to cross Asian off my fucket list too

[JayKay335i]

Originally Posted by NYCGP

You don't want to burn the person at all... fingers, teeth, face. Deep hole. Rinse and Repeat.

Must destroy DNA my friend.

[NYCGP]

Originally Posted by JayKay335i

Must destroy DNA my friend.

[JayKay335i]

Originally Posted by NYCGP

alcohol

[Saigon]

wow

[quagmire]

Now actually reading the post and not in rush to get to school I will reply a bit in full.

I already addressed one. You need to either get over your issue of having your GF still seeing guy friends or you need to find a woman that shares your belief of ending any contact when in a serious relationship with the opposite sex.

-3rd reason is her family:
I recently graduated from a major university in December with a B.A. in Finance. I had a big graduation/celebration dinner with my family and invited her family as well. I chose the restaurant specifically across the street from her house so that her parents would have no problems showing up. She decides not to take them to my graduation dinner since she says "I don't want to put them through this in case we break up in the future." I found that it was very unfair that I ALWAYS made it to all of her family events, she has 3 little brothers and I would always make it to their bday parties/event celebrations with gifts as well.

I have no way of communication to her parents. Her parents do not speak english, and only speak Mandarin. I speak vietnamese, cantonese, and english. So there is a language barrier.

The other thing is that her family DOES NOT respect me. Her dad treats me as if I am some scumbag with no education, no job, and I just feel that with my accomplishments, no human being deserves this level of respect. Almost every time I come inside her house, I get this feeling from her dad that he does not want me to be there, unless he needs me to fix their computer.

I am mad at the fact that I invested so much time/effort into her family by showing respect and face by going to all of their events, spending time and money on her little brothers/parents and NOT receive anything back but negativity from her family after a year of trying to get them to "like me" and not have them show up to my graduation dinner really hurt me inside.

A wise friend of mine told me, "If you marry the girl, you marry her family" so I had that concept stuck in my head and always tried my best to make her family happy.

One part of me says she is being selfish in that she doesn't want to do certain things just in case you two broke up. Another part of me is saying is that she is covering for her parents not liking you.

4th reason:
In December, she asked me for a promise ring for x-mas. We went shopping for it, and we picked it out together. Christmas time came, she opened the ring box in front of her family since she wanted them to see how happy/excited she was, then left it on her table in her room. The next week I wanted to take her to get the ring sized, so when I asked her about it, she says she doesn't know how to tell me this, but she lost the ring.

I was VERY upset/sad and she kept explaining that nobody took it from her room, her brothers did not take the ring, nor her parents did not take it. I honestly have a gut feeling that her mom secretly took the ring and hid it from her just because she didn't feel that it was right for her daughter to wear the promise ring. I can be wrong, but honestly nobody would of taken it, I don't think my ex-gf would lie about something like that either since she was crying that she felt guilty for losing the ring.

As I said above, she could very much be covering for her parents. Her crying could very well be genuine, but the reason why she is crying is a lie.

Is she close to her parents? Does she feel bad about going against her parents feelings of not liking you? She could be doing this because she is in conflict with herself. She probably does love you and everything, but her parents feelings toward you is pulling her in another direction.

Maybe I am being a bit optimistic above, but I do agree with others saying it's time to move on. The relationship was probably going to crash eventually if you never could change her parents feelings towards you. It wouldn't be worth it to put both of you into that situation of her parents hating you.

[SpeedRacer69]

thanks for all the advice guys, there is a certain guy that she was hanging out with that made me not trust her hanging out with her guy friends. There was one event that the guy happened to be at the same event we were at celebrating new years, she went to him to say hi, and he just stood there and gave me a dirty look. He knew I was the bf, but he still gave me a dirty look and the guy did not even want to meet me. If he didn't have anything to hide, then obviously he would of just introduced himself?

about the parents not liking me and her covering up for them, now it all makes sense

Thanks for all the advice guys, when I'm feeling down, I'll look at this thread

[Zoraster]

Who has time for insane nazi parents with irrational hatred? She and her family sound like crap. You win here.

[JayKay335i]

Originally Posted by Zoraster

Who has time for insane nazi parents with irrational hatred? She and her family sound like crap. You win here.

You assume that its irrational hatred. I bet OP sucks and the parents smell it.

[Forcefed3]

Want to sum that up in 3 sentences?

[MCS]

Asian here.

Didn't read the whole thread, but in response to the original post. I would recommend that you move on.

I'm about 15 years past where you are and would classify her as "the first big college or immediate post-college" relationship.

It hurts man - I feel for you and have been there. However, you will move on and find a girl and her family more appreciative of you...

Lastly - Don't be jealous of her having some guy friends - If you're confident in your relationship... You don't "own" her and I'm sure you have some platonic friends that happen to be female.

Good luck - Let me know where it goes