[bimmette]

Originally Posted by Kyngofpop

But I like her...

I'm just sayin... if she thinks you're gay and is thrilled to have a new best friend and you suddenly try to sleep with her...you are gonna traumatize her.

[Kyngofpop]

Originally Posted by bimmette

I'm just sayin... if she thinks you're gay and is thrilled to have a new best friend and you suddenly try to sleep with her...you are gonna traumatize her.

What if she tries to sleep with me?! I'm not against it at ALL!! She'll buy me awesome things!!

No one has EVER bought me anything!!

[Turkish Pickle]

I am very conflicted with this whole case
on one hand I feel like she does see him as her new bff but on the other hand she pulls stuff (waiting under a snowstorm for my buddy to fix his car? nahhh im too much of a bitch for that) im getting different vibes very confused

there's also the dilemma of bringing it up - if you do and she's not about that she might not like that, but I guess better to know for sure than to make guesses against each other...

[bimmette]

Originally Posted by Kyngofpop

What if she tries to sleep with me?! I'm not against it at ALL!! She'll buy me awesome things!!

No one has EVER bought me anything!!

Of course go for it if she makes a move first!
but don't make the first move unless you clarify to her how you feel. I know it's awkward, but seriously, be mature about this.

[bimmette]

Originally Posted by Kyngofpop

I'm confused as it GETS! My gift for her was gna be so awesome and a surprise!

I've never bought a Christmas gift for someone...EVER, even my MOM(that's just how we live).

I always thought life was to be lived all alone. Maybe...I mean MAYBE!

Even if I thought I was gay for so long...could I have finally met someone that could care about me too?! Idgaf about sexuality...just Love!

Ok, slow down. How long have you known her? I swear you were falling for some guy just a couple weeks ago. I feel like you should clarify your relationship before you spend a ton of money on her for Xmas. And of course you are going to meet people who care about you. Maybe that's just why you're so excited? She cares about you... but is she flirting with you?

[Kyngofpop]

Originally Posted by bimmette

Ok, slow down. How long have you known her? I swear you were falling for some guy just a couple weeks ago. I feel like you should clarify your relationship before you spend a ton of money on her for Xmas. And of course you are going to meet people who care about you. Maybe that's just why you're so excited? She cares about you... but is she flirting with you?

I thought I was liking some dude a few weeks ago...as I always do. Ol girl met dude and convinced me that it was just a fluke. He was lame anyway! I like her a LOT better! She treats me better than any dude I've known!

They all just throw me away but she's like fighting for my attention! I'm not ugly but I feel HIDEOUS and have had surgery to help correct what I feel are my shortcomings but she adores me as I am!!

She even feels my recent weight gain is awesome as opposed to my pre-surgery weight of 40lbs lighter. 5 11 200lbs as opposed to my pre-surgery 5 11 and 160.

I've known her for 6 yrs but we're becoming closer and FAST! She's more beautiful than I could ever imagine...like out of my league imo. I've had hundreds of girls try to get with me but have only been confounded by this one...

[bimmette]

Originally Posted by Kyngofpop

I thought I was liking some dude a few weeks ago...as I always do. Ol girl met dude and convinced me that it was just a fluke. He was lame anyway! I like her a LOT better! She treats me better than any dude I've known!

They all just throw me away but she's like fighting for my attention! I'm not ugly but I feel HIDEOUS and have had surgery to help correct what I feel are my shortcomings but she adores me as I am!!

She even feels my recent weight gain is awesome as opposed to my pre-surgery weight of 40lbs lighter. 5 11 200lbs as opposed to my pre-surgery 5 11 and 160.

I've known her for 6 yrs but we're becoming closer and FAST! She's more beautiful than I could ever imagine...like out of my league imo. I've had hundreds of girls try to get with me but have only been confounded by this one...

Ok, if you are not seeing a therapist now, then you should be. You feel hideous and have had cosmetic surgery but clearly it hasn't helped your self-esteem. To me it sounds like you're falling for this girl because she is a nice human and is treating you like a friend. Friends care about eachother. They do stuff for eachother and are supportive and compliment eachother.

[Kyngofpop]

Originally Posted by bimmette

Ok, if you are not seeing a therapist now, then you should be. You feel hideous and have had cosmetic surgery but clearly it hasn't helped your self-esteem. To me it sounds like you're falling for this girl because she is a nice human and is treating you like a friend. Friends care about eachother. They do stuff for eachother and are supportive and compliment eachother.

All good, I'm as just as fucked up aa the next guy. I'll keep ya updated

[nyalpine90]

sooo Kyngofpop went from D to P...
she seems to like him too much she trying to convince him...
maybe you should try it, but let her know first and see where things go.

[CTinline-six]

[upstatedoc]

this beats anything i got

[nyalpine90]

Originally Posted by upstatedoc

this beats anything i got

do tell

[upstatedoc]

Originally Posted by nyalpine90

do tell

met terrilyn out for a quick drink last night, really not my type. i'm meeting cindy out tonight, shes looking like the most potential. still a little sad over danyell but there is nothing to do there

[nyalpine90]

Originally Posted by upstatedoc

met terrilyn out for a quick drink last night, really not my type. i'm meeting cindy out tonight, shes looking like the most potential. still a little sad over danyell but there is nothing to do there

but what happen with danyell, how did things fall apart?
i thought she was into you???

[CTinline-six]

Originally Posted by nyalpine90

but what happen with danyell, how did things fall apart?
i thought she was into you???

I think we all did. But we forgot how some people are psychotic.

[Kyngofpop]

Originally Posted by OnerDriver

Exactly!

And just as "the next guy" seeing a therapist (a psychologist or a psychiatrist, not a witch "counsellor") is what we do.
I do not know anyone who has not been in therapy. Including myself.

It's like meeting someone who never had a fever.

You're stigmatizing therapy, as I'm reading it. Therapy is all about having someone help YOU find the answers that lie within YOU. They help with guiding YOU ask the questions YOU know the answers. You talk to yourself and figure out why things are the way they are. It's great.

You hold the key to the discoveries of yourself. Sometimes we don't find these answers on our own. And the lack of knowledge can be harmful to us and our relationships.

If I'm right and you're stigmatizing therapy, I need to give you a smack and say "I thought you were open minded". If not, why the reluctance? You said it yourself, and it shows, you lack the answers to help you normalize these feelings.

I've been in therapy many times, as recent as maybe 6-8 months ago. Not downing it or stigmatizing it at all I just don't think it applies in this situation. I'm doing the same thing as everyone else which is exploring life. The world ain't nothing but a big place for us to go out and fuk up in it...

[King Rudi]

Holy shit at the turn this thread has taken.

Kyngofpop What's the likelihood of us seeing what this girl that has you all flustered looks like? I'm not asking for any reason other than the fact that you mention that she is out of your league. I'm comfortable enough in my sexuality to say that you are a handsome guy, this coupled along with the fact that from my understanding that you have mostly been with men in the past would lead me to believe that a.) she sees this as a challenge which should be handled carefully from your end and b.) she finds this endearing as most women make comments about the hot guys either being married or gay.

Here is my take, people are people; if you are attracted and feel a connection nothing else really matters. I'd still like to see what this lady looks like.

[UncleWede]

Hey King, here's an idea. Show her your channel. If she ever calls you again, go meet her mom.

Dude, you of all people should know the value of Love and its non-conformity. If you FEEL it, don't hide it away. The world needs a little more every day.

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by OnerDriver

I smell something in the air

[Turkish Pickle]

great and i thought i was going to have a productive morning

[MKSixer]

Originally Posted by Not_Judy

Even though there were no charges placed against me, we still had to go to court. Oddly enough the judge still granted an order of protection against me which will always be on my record now because this bitch cheated on me. The order of protection meant nothing as within a month she was calling me up begging for sex because the other 3 guys wouldn't talk to her after seeing what she did to me. Being able to make a woman's toes curl in ways that others don't understand can be just as much of a burden as it can be a gift.

I still wrestle with this. Is it better to be mediocre in bed and let women give the "meh" about you in conversation concerning your skills with others or is it better to blow their damn minds and have to deal with the results later? This is where someone will jump in and say it all depends on the level of crazy with the female involved. In my experience, they all end this way regardless of how wholesome they are/were before I go in and rearrange their insides.

On the plus side, I've also been contacted out of the blue by friends of the women I've been with, out of curiosity from what they've been told. Word of mouth marketing is a helluva thing.

This. I have one who won't leave me alone. I get 4-6 calls per day and about a dozen texts. It's ridiculous.

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by MKSixer

This. I have one who won't leave me alone. I get 4-6 calls per day and about a dozen texts. It's ridiculous.

Laying it down right breeds stalkers.