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      01-10-2009, 09:56 PM   #45
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what are you guys depressed about. It really sucks the air out of me. Im in a bad place because society will never accept me
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Like I have said in the past this is no bs. I do receive professional help but it does not really change anything you know. People will always be people and be extrememly judgemental of me for various reasons I need not disclose. What can I do? I am trying to be a good guy about it. It's strange to bring up this topic here, but who else is their to talk to or gain perspective from?
Sometimes when I feel sad, I think about what I would think about just before I pass away. Do I want my thoughts to be, "Wow, I'm just terribly depressed most of my life, that's all I remember." Or would it be, "Wow, I helped a lot of people, it brought me much joy in return in my life."

While morbid, that exercise gives me some focus, moves me back onto a track I want to be on. Sure there'll be shitty times, everyone including me and Frodo thinks their lives are terrible, but like Gandalf says, "We need only decide what we want to do with the time that's given to us." It's just a few tens of years, make it worthwhile.

It's really up to the individual what his life ends up being. People can tell you so many things, but at the end of the day it's what you think of yourself that matters.

P.S. It really doesn't matter to me whether the OP is just trying to get himself banned, because I know there will be people out there who read the forum, feel depressed, but don't post. I hope some of the posts help them in some way. I know that especially in these times more people need help. I hit a pothole a couple of days ago, and was a little upset about it. Until the tow truck driver asked me whether I think he'll get the missing 50% of his 401k back within these last few years of his life. After that, my problems felt miniscule...
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      01-10-2009, 09:57 PM   #47
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hey Bmoney, why don't you come hang out with us in this thread, we're have a shit load of fun, will prob make you feel better

http://www.e90post.com/forums/showthread.php?t=199675
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      01-10-2009, 10:00 PM   #48
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Sometimes when I feel sad, I think about what I would think about just before I pass away. Do I want my thoughts to be, "Wow, I'm just terribly depressed most of my life, that's all I remember." Or would it be, "Wow, I helped a lot of people, it brought me much joy in return in my life."

While morbid, that exercise gives me some focus, moves me back onto a track I want to be on. Sure there'll be shitty times, everyone including me and Frodo thinks their lives are terrible, but like Gandalf says, "We need only decide what we want to do with the time that's given to us." It's just a few tens of years, but make it worthwhile.

It's really up to the individual what he's life ends up being. People can tell you so many things, but at the end of the day it's you yourself that matters.
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      01-10-2009, 10:00 PM   #49
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hey Bmoney, why don't you come hang out with us in this thread, we're have a shit load of fun, will prob make you feel better

http://www.e90post.com/forums/showthread.php?t=199675
lol. . .this should get interesting quick.
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Life can be extremely beautiful and extremely cruel. Your happiness and purpose in life is only something that YOU can change.
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It would be diffucult for us to provide any advice to you unless any of us experienced the same thing you are going through. Depression is a difficult thing to overcome if you don't have the will to fight through it. I have a close friend who was raped by her father and uncle when she was a child and was depressed for the most part of her life. Her father would verbally and physically abuse her. She went through phases where she wanted to take her life. Fortunately, she decided to prove (to her father) that her life meant something so she putting herself through college and she has lived abroad to get another perspective on life. She has been doing well with herself and always has a smile on her face now. She used who caused her depression as motivation to prove that person wrong.

Take that for what its worth. Life can suck balls for sure, and society can bring people down. But its like what Rocky says "It's not how hard you hit, but how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward"
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listen to these songs. they make you happy.


and the chick is hot in that vid, idc what anybody says^

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The only person that can hurt you, is yourself. People will be cruel..it's your decision whether you want those hurtful things to affect you.

From what it sounds like, people don't really seem to be the true problem here. The culprit is your self respect. You don't go to school, you don't work, you don't socialize...you basically don't do sh*t. You are depriving yourself of life's joys and accomplishments. You have no self worth and it's eating you alive. Why??? Cuz you aren't getting a grade for staying up late studying...or receiving a paycheck for your hard work...or a pat on the shoulder from a fulfilling friendship. You need to go out there and stimulate your emotions! Don't fear failure or ridicule. Each "F" you receive on a test makes each "A" that much more gratifying. Each time you get fired from one job, gives you the opportunity to find something even better for yourself. Each friend that stabs you in the back will help you strengthen the bond with the ones that truly matter. You have no give and return in your life, so of course your body (physically and mentally) just feels like shit. I hate waking up at 4am and going to work, but at least I know that for the next 8 hours or so, i have a purpose. You need to wake up, and have something to wake up for.

You're letting ignorant strangers rob you of your right to experience the knowledge of failure, and the joys of success. So you have a small penis, or a little overweight...OWN IT! Work it, or change it...just don't sulk about it.

I'm a skinny asian guy that's not all that great looking. my eyes aren't really almond shaped, they're more like sunflower seed shaped (real chinky). i hate how it looks, but i just think it gives me the benefit of seeing life in wide screen view. i accidentally farted out loud while talking to my HR manager. it was embarrassing, but watching him try and keep a straight face was priceless. Your physical faults will provide benefits you need to discover, while embarrassing moments will create some of the best stories to tell.

1. grab your balls and own who you are
2. go out and do something to better yourself
3. appreciate the ones who love you, then take your little penis and fuck those who don't
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Risk

To laugh is to risk appearing the fool
To weep is to risk appearing sentimental
To reach out for another is to risk involvement
To expose feelings is to risk exposing your true self
To play your ideas, your dreams before the crowd is to risk their loss
To love is to risk not being loved in return
To live is to risk dying
To hope is to risk despair
To try is to risk failure
But risk must be taken, because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing
The person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing and is nothing
He may avoid suffering and sorrow, but he simply cannot learn to feel, change, grow, love.
Chained by his certitudes, he is a slave
He has forfeited freedom
Only a person who risks.....is free
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      01-11-2009, 03:18 PM   #56
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You know, the last posts, I have much respect for. Thanks, its nice to know theres still people who are smart, and have some integrity as well as respect for others. Thanks guys. Peace
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      01-11-2009, 03:50 PM   #57
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HEY HEY HEY there buddy, am I depopressed or re you deprsessed. Im feeeling excellent and jouful and sunny right now because Im masturbating right now as i typing. On the other hand, your depressed because your not masturbating...iono man.

ps. sorry for all the tyo im typoing with one hand right now.
wow man multi tasking has gone to a whole different level with you hasn't it? lol



to the OP: dude if you are getting professional help, do what they tell you or at least try to do some of the things the guys on this thread tell you. if you sit at home and shoot every idea down looking for something "comforting" to be said then you will never get out of your situation. get out their with some energy and fuck any negative comments you get from anyone. things are only what you make of them.
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listen to these songs. they make you happy.


and the chick is hot in that vid, idc what anybody says^

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i just want you to know that i spent a whole hour listening to the "kids" song...nonstop hahaha. so addicting although im scarred from those KISS wannabes

OP: listen to what the people on this thread are telling you. you came here for help so take it and do something. its no good to sit around and wait...you have to start somewhere. before you know it, youll feel so much better about yourself
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i just want you to know that i spent a whole hour listening to the "kids" song...nonstop hahaha. so addicting although im scarred from those KISS wannabes
not gonna lie, i've done the same thing. it's my favorite song by them. they only have one LP, but it's sooo good. listen to Destrokk, Indie Rokkers, and Electric Feel too.

Electric Feel:


sorry for going . didn't mean to thread jack.
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Well life is how you make it.
Don't assume so much.

Sometimes (minority but still there) it is hormonal and one needs professional helps.
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BMonkey, keep yourself busy...I used to get VERY depressed....to the point where I could hardly breathe.
-if someone makes fun of you, don't show them that it bothered you, cause it's only going to encourage them to continue just so they can get a laugh out of you.
-get a job if you don't have one
-make some new friends
-join a gym and workout for a good 90 minutes a day, set some goals for yourself and stick w/ them till you accomplish them.
-Above all, get lots of deep sleep (not necessarily sleeping all day either) - EAT CELERY b4 bed
- Watch lots of comedy movies or skits at youtube.
- Watch sports (pick a team and follow them)
- Remember, TAKE IT EASY. Whenever you find yourself "stuck" in a depressed state, try to shake it off and tell yourself that you're going to take it easy and that you simply don't care anymore about your emotions/thoughts. And go take a walk.
- Think of the positive things in your life. For example, you have your parents, a driver's license, you have your eyes, your hands, arms, legs, you have a computer, you're living in an era where we got internet, cars, big screen tv's, man there's so much shit we take for granted.
-don't expect anything from people or anything. You'll find out that when you don't expect things, you're less anxious b/c you're not "waiting" for anything.

Hope this helps

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      01-12-2009, 12:44 AM   #62
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BMonkey, keep yourself busy...I used to get VERY depressed....to the point where I could hardly breathe.
-if someone makes fun of you, don't show them that it bothered you, cause it's only going to encourage them to continue just so they can get a laugh out of you.
-get a job if you don't have one
-make some new friends
-join a gym and workout for a good 90 minutes a day, set some goals for yourself and stick w/ them till you accomplish them.
-Above all, get lots of deep sleep (not necessarily sleeping all day either) - EAT CELERY b4 bed
- Watch lots of comedy movies or skits at youtube.
- Watch sports (pick a team and follow them)
- Remember, TAKE IT EASY. Whenever you find yourself "stuck" in a depressed state, try to shake it off and tell yourself that you're going to take it easy and that you simply don't care anymore about your emotions/thoughts. And go take a walk.
- Think of the positive things in your life. For example, you have your parents, a driver's license, you have your eyes, your hands, arms, legs, you have a computer, you're living in an era where we got internet, cars, big screen tv's, man there's so much shit we take for granted.
-don't expect anything from people or anything. You'll find out that when you don't expect things, you're less anxious b/c you're not "waiting" for anything.

Hope this helps

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BMonkey, keep yourself busy...I used to get VERY depressed....to the point where I could hardly breathe.
-if someone makes fun of you, don't show them that it bothered you, cause it's only going to encourage them to continue just so they can get a laugh out of you.
-get a job if you don't have one
-make some new friends
-join a gym and workout for a good 90 minutes a day, set some goals for yourself and stick w/ them till you accomplish them.
-Above all, get lots of deep sleep (not necessarily sleeping all day either) - EAT CELERY b4 bed
- Watch lots of comedy movies or skits at youtube.
- Watch sports (pick a team and follow them)
- Remember, TAKE IT EASY. Whenever you find yourself "stuck" in a depressed state, try to shake it off and tell yourself that you're going to take it easy and that you simply don't care anymore about your emotions/thoughts. And go take a walk.
- Think of the positive things in your life. For example, you have your parents, a driver's license, you have your eyes, your hands, arms, legs, you have a computer, you're living in an era where we got internet, cars, big screen tv's, man there's so much shit we take for granted.
-don't expect anything from people or anything. You'll find out that when you don't expect things, you're less anxious b/c you're not "waiting" for anything.

Hope this helps

Good advice.. but considering the guy describes himself as very out of shape, I don't think he needs to start working out for an hour and a half a day. Starting off with a few light work outs weekly would be a great start.
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