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      03-20-2012, 12:49 AM   #23
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One day you will realize you were a fool for wasting so much time on this girl. Many opportunities have probably passed you by. If you don't believe that, then you are probably going to be single until you are 40. Grow some balls and don't take someones shits. If you are jealous you cant be with her, then pretending your just friends is only screwing yourself over in the long run. You're getting used. Simple as that.

Grow some balls and be blunt with her. If she doesnt like what you have to say or how you actually feel, then theres 3.5 billion other women in the sea.

Ive been exactly in your shoes. You call the shots. Next time she needs something, just say no. The fact you have low self esteem just means she will never come back to you in the way you want. Girls never go for guys with pitty. They use them.
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      03-20-2012, 09:37 AM   #24
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How does she meet so many people out of state?
ucsd has a military base right next to it and she's friends with alot of guys from there.

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OP, your story literally sounds like what I went through not too long ago. This is what you need to do: Drop her. Once you stop calling, texting, etc. She'll instantly forget about you. Don't do her anymore favors either. Once you stop all that, the words "best friends" will never come out of her mouth again. She says that because you go out of your way for her and she doesn't want you to stop.

Wanna know what I did? After I realized all that, I went overseas on vacation and hooked up with a girl while I was there. Got over the girl that used me and I've been good ever since. I'm still friends with her. She'll text me occasionally wanting to hang out or grab a bite to eat. And I do but I never flip the bill or pick her up anymore. I've realized I'm way better off without her. She's been dating different guys on and off since. I'm glad I'm not in that situation anymore.
the thing is that i tried alienating her b4 during late sophomore and beginning junior year and then she becomes the one that calls and texts. so she doesn't mind being the one that initiates and will most likely keep it up even if its completely one way....
its hard to drop it completely without saying it straight up to her face. and i know most of u guys have said to just drop her immediately and move on, but its just so heartless to do that to another person when u've known that person for a long time and u know her family and all...
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      03-20-2012, 09:52 AM   #25
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and i know most of u guys have said to just drop her immediately and move on, but its just so heartless to do that to another person when u've known that person for a long time and u know her family and all...
want chicks? become heartless man...
otherwise you'll be forever friendzoned

man up dude.. the best way is cold turkey.. delete all ties and refuse to see her... you owe her NOTHING and all she does is USE you. If that's what you want, then anything we say won't sway you otherwise.

why do you feel bad for her? I bet she doesn't feel bad about you.. She just misses the fact that you do everything for her without her having to do anything for you...
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the thing is that i tried alienating her b4 during late sophomore and beginning junior year and then she becomes the one that calls and texts. so she doesn't mind being the one that initiates and will most likely keep it up even if its completely one way....
its hard to drop it completely without saying it straight up to her face. and i know most of u guys have said to just drop her immediately and move on, but its just so heartless to do that to another person when u've known that person for a long time and u know her family and all...
I'm not trying to be a dick but you didn't try hard enough. If she was the one to call and text you, I'm sure if she asked to hang out or something, you said yes.
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want chicks? become heartless man...
otherwise you'll be forever friendzoned

man up dude.. the best way is cold turkey.. delete all ties and refuse to see her... you owe her NOTHING and all she does is USE you. If that's what you want, then anything we say won't sway you otherwise.

why do you feel bad for her? I bet she doesn't feel bad about you.. She just misses the fact that you do everything for her without her having to do anything for you...
He's right. If she wants to do something or hang out, just tell her no. Or tell her you're hanging out with the guys tonight. Or find another girl and take her to the movies. Or whatever.

The girl I used to have a thing for loved sushi, and I do too. Every Thursday I would go with a bunch of my friends and she would go with a bunch of her friends. We sat at different tables though. It's like the place to be on Thursdays here. Anyways, we started going together and sitting at a table for just the two of us. That went on for the longest time. Then I realized what you are realizing now. That next Thursday I didn't make plans with her for dinner, so naturally, she went with her friends. I showed up with different girl that night and we sat at our own table. I will never forget the look on her face when she saw me walk in the door with another girl. I did the same thing again the next week only with yet another girl.

You kinda need to do that because when girls get like that, they think the world revolves around them.
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      03-20-2012, 07:01 PM   #27
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Break it off w/her- once it's over, it's over. On another note- you went to college and still use the term "hanged out"???

And you may have feelings for her and all, but she sounds like a real slut.
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      03-20-2012, 11:18 PM   #29
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To the OP, reading your post made my head hurt. You speak and spell as if you're in fukcing middle school.
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great thread, love the spark notes idea
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OP, I hope that when you're "hanging out", you mean you're sleeping with her.

You obviously have feelings for her that she doesn't have for you. I don't care how much you agreed to only be friends, you want her. Meanwhile she's having you take her home after phucking someone in another state.

You, sir, are a sucker. But, it's the power of the vag....we've all been victims to it!

If she is your friend, treat her like one. I don't think you should stop hanging out with her. She is your friend, after all. But I do believe you should stop going above and beyond. The next time she asks you to do something you should ask yourself, "if this were someone else asking me, what would my answer be?"
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Bro just take out advise and cut ties with this broad, we've all been there and done that. We know what situation your in. Its best to move on to someone else as hard as it might be. Once she realizes "OH shit he's gone" then maybe she will act more interested.
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1. Definitely in the friend zone, with a whore. That's pretty bad.
2. Sounds like you've never had a GF. That's worse.
3. Make money and then get laid.
"Disregard bitches acuire currency."
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Stopped reading here, but I should have stopped at "high school."


Welcome to life. Here's your Prozac and your bottle of cheap vodka to drown your sorrows. Enjoy.
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I will never forget the look on her face when she saw me walk in the door with another girl.
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1. Definitely in the friend zone, with a whore. That's pretty bad.
lol...that really bad...she's fucked guys just because they've asked...
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So i am not even going to ask if she's hot. I've been at UCSD more than enough times.


And you're a fucking retard for getting used that much. Even a monkey with no brains would figure out that she's milking you harder than a 3rd world country cow.
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quit being soft. eff the friend zone.
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