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If you want kids and have them, or don't want them and don't have them, you're looking out for your own self-interest either way. They're both "selfish", and there's nothing wrong with that. So you didn't want kids and had them anyway, and consider yourself some kind of martyr, above everyone else who is doing what they want to do, for enduring it? If you feel like you're falling on your sword and doing your duty for raising your kid, I feel sorry for it. Don't get me wrong though...it's far better than having it and not raising it. Being child-free is only "selfish", in the traditional negative since of the word, if you have a child but choose to not care for it or care for it insufficiently.
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04-07-2014, 12:23 PM | #420 |
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I spent the better part of this past weekend laughing at the funny stuff my daughter was doing. It was awesome. Kids are a friggin' riot!
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04-07-2014, 01:23 PM | #421 | |
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The hospital billed my son $6575 (3 days in the hospital from birth) and sent it to collections saying he had no insurance. No duh, there is a 2 wk. window because it takes time to get the documents to the health care. I told them to resubmit it twice, and finally said you do what you want, I'm not paying it. Our coinsurance is $370. It finally got billed properly March 1. Normally I would feel annoyance at having to pay $370 for something this late after the fact, but with a baby I don't. |
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Really? I guess it's good that your new baby makes it easier for you to settle your debts 3 months late. Someone should chalk that up as another point for having kids.
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04-07-2014, 02:09 PM | #423 |
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Not to derail this but on the subject of insurance, I was curious to see how much was paid by my insurance company for removing a polyp on my vocal cord. I was in the building for a total of three hours. The total amount billed was just over $35,000 and my insurance paid $5,900. Pretty remarkable. It makes you wonder... if I didn't have insurance, would they expect the full $35k? That seems crazy.
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most people have kids because
A) they think that's what they're supposed to do B) they have nothing else to do C) they think that's what they're supposed to do you should answer this question yourself. the majority of people haven't a clue of what they want/think/or feel.....they just follow the masses like blind rats chasing garbage through the drainage system. |
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04-07-2014, 02:53 PM | #431 | |
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I was just thinking about this: I have a pretty high sex-drive. If I had lived at any time up until the past 50 years or so, I'd have a ton of kids by default just by following my own natural desires...not for kids...but for sex. Nature has installed that need in my psyche because it was the most effective way to spread my genes, but it's interesting that the desire for a mini-me isn't even 10% as strong. Come on guys...am I all alone here? How much did you guys want to get laid vs wanting babies? Women...how about you? I imagine the maternal instinct is higher in women as it ensures the survival of her baby, but sex-drive is a huge part of it, too. There was no need to consider "do I want kids? throughout history; it's just something that would happen, like death and taxes. Things are different now. It's not something we have to do, and won't be unless some pandemic wipes out most of the human population. |
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^It's evident your desire to have kids is just not there.
The question I think is will you regret it, as that is the point of regret to make you head it off by considering your current actions on the future. If so, could you 'make' yourself want kids? Probably not, BUT your desire to have kids might be changed by observing others. If even that doesn't work, yeah you will probably never enjoy it, so having them would be a purely rational thing like how much work will it be vs. how much they will take care of you in old age - but that's probably never going to happen. If you don't like kids, you don't like kids! BUT you could be mistaken about yourself, or you could change. |
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I must be on Grimmy's wavelength cause i get what he's saying. I don't get the confusion.
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No, this is the day of the HRA. If you were billed 35k, insurance settled at $5900, you could negotiate it down to probably around $3,500. Again, we as Americans are afraid to negotiate. A routine straight forward pregnancy is 51k, with insurance paying as little as 13k and as much as 30k. You are judged or pre-qualified for sure. |
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I understand, it's just the beginning, worth it for the time being. I mean yes, wth have we been saving all these years for? |
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I had not heard of the term "cultural inertia" prior to reading your post, but in accordance with standard physics definitions cultural inertial also describes resistance to (cultural) change which is opposite of what you intended to say I think. |
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