Infidelity

skinnycow · 03-22-2011, 12:20 PM

all i have to say is that when you cheat on someone who cares about you, your actions will change them as a person. i was cheated on and it changed the way i looked at myself and men, and the way i view relationships. good and bad, i still think i would have been a different person if i didn't get cheated on.

CollinsE90 · 03-22-2011, 12:48 PM

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Originally Posted by skinnycow

all i have to say is that when you cheat on someone who cares about you, your actions will change them as a person. i was cheated on and it changed the way i looked at myself and men, and the way i view relationships. good and bad, i still think i would have been a different person if i didn't get cheated on.

You can't take someone else's action personally, people cheat and you can't stop it. Females are just as quick to cheat as men, and personally I'm glad I got cheated on, because I met tons of girls way better than that slut. She did me a favor

skinnycow · 03-22-2011, 01:01 PM

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Originally Posted by CollinsE90

You can't take someone else's action personally, people cheat and you can't stop it. Females are just as quick to cheat as men, and personally I'm glad I got cheated on, because I met tons of girls way better than that slut. She did me a favor

Good and bad things came out of what happened. I wouldn't change what has happened, but I'm just saying it does change people, some in good ways others in bad. I also believe that you shouldn't take one's mistake and put it on another because that's not fair to the other person, but it does change the way you view/do things.

Live & Learn

texasmojo · 03-22-2011, 01:04 PM

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Originally Posted by skinnycow

"once a cheater always a cheater" do you guys think this statement is true?

Hell yes.

CollinsE90 · 03-22-2011, 01:19 PM

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Originally Posted by skinnycow

Good and bad things came out of what happened. I wouldn't change what has happened, but I'm just saying it does change people, some in good ways others in bad. I also believe that you shouldn't take one's mistake and put it on another because that's not fair to the other person, but it does change the way you view/do things.

Live & Learn

It shouldn't change you as a person, it should just have taught you how to recognize it. Just because they cheated doesn't mean you weren't as qualified as the person they cheated with. There are so many excuses, I mean reasons why people do it. Look at it as a favor, because honestly it was the easiest break up I've encountered. I don't tolerate cheating, and when I proved it I walked away and never looked back. Cheating is for cowards, who don't have the balls to tell you they don't want to be with you anymore.

Verbiage · 03-22-2011, 01:28 PM

Or, cheating is for those who are weak at heart or just wanted some new temporary vagina/dick.

skinnycow · 03-22-2011, 01:41 PM

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Originally Posted by CollinsE90

It shouldn't change you as a person, it should just have taught you how to recognize it. Just because they cheated doesn't mean you weren't as qualified as the person they cheated with. There are so many excuses, I mean reasons why people do it. Look at it as a favor, because honestly it was the easiest break up I've encountered. I don't tolerate cheating, and when I proved it I walked away and never looked back. Cheating is for cowards, who don't have the balls to tell you they don't want to be with you anymore.

+ 1

I guess with girls it's different... exp. my friend who's got cheated on now has trust issues and her new boyfriend has to deal with it. it was a hard break up for her, i guess she was more emotionally attached, so it took a big toll on her. different people handle different situations differently.

persian54 · 03-22-2011, 04:58 PM

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Originally Posted by skinnycow

all i have to say is that when you cheat on someone who cares about you, your actions will change them as a person. i was cheated on and it changed the way i looked at myself and men, and the way i view relationships. good and bad, i still think i would have been a different person if i didn't get cheated on.

This is very true.

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Originally Posted by CollinsE90

You can't take someone else's action personally, people cheat and you can't stop it. Females are just as quick to cheat as men, and personally I'm glad I got cheated on, because I met tons of girls way better than that slut. She did me a favor

Yes she may have done you a favor... you but it's hard to not take it personally.

there's usually something lacking in a relationship that causes someone to cheat
so the person that got cheated on was either not doing something right, not doing something enough, doing something wrong, etc etc

UBERV8 · 03-22-2011, 05:12 PM

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+ 1

I guess with girls it's different... exp. my friend who's got cheated on now has trust issues and her new boyfriend has to deal with it. it was a hard break up for her, i guess she was more emotionally attached, so it took a big toll on her. different people handle different situations differently.

This is called baggage. Your friend should not have even entertained another relationship until her past hurt was healed.

Verbiage · 03-22-2011, 06:40 PM

Baggage is a HUGE turn off.

skinnycow · 03-22-2011, 07:16 PM

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Baggage is a HUGE turn off.

this

Seattle S65B40 · 03-22-2011, 08:22 PM

Once a cheater, always a cheater... Until you find the right person.

Any dude who thinks he's tight and cheats on his girl but thinks he's never been cheated on is trippin. Girls are just as sneaky. Oh, and Karma's a bitch.

MontegoGoGoGo · 03-22-2011, 08:54 PM

Oh, I'm not even going here! LOL

Kroy · 03-22-2011, 08:59 PM

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Oh, I'm not even going here! LOL

no, please do. tell us how you really feel.

newdadkel · 03-22-2011, 10:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Seattle S65B40

Once a cheater, always a cheater... Until you find the right person.

Any dude who thinks he's tight and cheats on his girl but thinks he's never been cheated on is trippin. Girls are just as sneaky. Oh, and Karma's a bitch.

Dont know about that brah.
From everyone I know, once you cheat, thats pretty much how it will continue. Sure, some will stop for a while, but their lack of willpower/morals/ethics/whatever will eventually give way and they go right back.
Very good friend is like this right now. He was married to a chick who had family money, but still pissed away for some easy puss. Now he is just looking for the next piece and could care less if they are married or not. I dont agree with it but its his and whatever slutz decision.
So yes, he has very weak morals, and therein is his basic underlying flaw.

CollinsE90 · 03-22-2011, 10:47 PM

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Dont know about that brah.
From everyone I know, once you cheat, thats pretty much how it will continue. Sure, some will stop for a while, but their lack of willpower/morals/ethics/whatever will eventually give way and they go right back.
Very good friend is like this right now. He was married to a chick who had family money, but still pissed away for some easy puss. Now he is just looking for the next piece and could care less if they are married or not. I dont agree with it but its his and whatever slutz decision.
So yes, he has very weak morals, and therein is his basic underlying flaw.

I agree, it's how you're raised imo.

Dackz · 03-22-2011, 11:17 PM

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Originally Posted by texasmojo

Hell yes.

Yupers

Seattle S65B40 · 03-23-2011, 12:13 AM

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Originally Posted by newdadkel

Dont know about that brah.
From everyone I know, once you cheat, thats pretty much how it will continue. Sure, some will stop for a while, but their lack of willpower/morals/ethics/whatever will eventually give way and they go right back.
Very good friend is like this right now. He was married to a chick who had family money, but still pissed away for some easy puss. Now he is just looking for the next piece and could care less if they are married or not. I dont agree with it but its his and whatever slutz decision.
So yes, he has very weak morals, and therein is his basic underlying flaw.

I see your point, but as animalistic as it may seem, we [humans, males specifically] do what's best for us at specific points of time, and not necessarily what is best overall - "for the greater good," as they say...

If it's good for him to be with some rich broad at one point, it's also worthwhile for him to get strange puS& at another. "Morals" don't exist in an imperfect world such as ours. They are merely a beacon that some people aspire to follow for whatever subconsciously motivated reason. Other's could care the fock-less...

persian54 · 03-23-2011, 04:38 AM

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I agree, it's how you're raised imo.

This has nothing to do with it.

I would have never even conceived cheating before... didn't think it was possible.
I wanted one woman...and only one.

Be in love... all that crap.
And I was.
Until I got cheated on... then again... and now..well you know.

Verbiage · 03-23-2011, 09:23 AM

Persian is a pussy boss.

bosstones · 03-23-2011, 09:27 AM

Doesn't the fact that we are all (or almost all) infidels mean we live a life of infidelity everyday?

NYCGP · 03-23-2011, 09:32 AM

I've been cheated on... and cheated. My opinion on the subject is simple....

tree falls in the forest and didn't get herpes.. did anything happen?

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