Dating - Good/Bad Experiences

Never_Enough · 10-26-2018, 12:38 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by upstatedoc

you guys are killing me

aozer · 10-26-2018, 12:52 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Never_Enough

You don't know why? You sound young.

The grass is always greener on the other side...till you get there.

Why did it take a month for you to not be "feeling it"?

I’m 29, so idk if that is young or not. Sometimes things change and you can grow into liking somebody. I gave it some time because I’m not gonna completely dismiss somebody just because I’m not head over heels obsessed upon first meeting. I don’t believe in that fairy tale bullshit.

nyalpine90 · 10-26-2018, 12:57 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by aozer

so ive been seeing that bumble girl i met with like a month back that i mentioned on here, but im just not feeling it.

i dont know why. shes nice, loyal, attractive, always cooks me some good ass food, and we have a good time together. when i think about it logically, she should be perfect, but i just dont get excited to see her. i kind of want to break it off but i feel like i will end up regretting it as soon as i get back into the shit life of online dating again.

post pics or didnt happen!!!!!

shes too good to be true???? let her go then, meet a nutjob and u will regret it so quick

CTinline-six · 10-26-2018, 01:00 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by nyalpine90

post pics or didnt happen!!!!!

shes too good to be true???? let her go then, meet a nutjob and u will regret it so quick

+1

It's natural for us guys to want more than one partner, but it only takes one crazy bitch for you to realize how good the others were.

Alfisti · 10-26-2018, 01:03 PM

I'd be very, very reticent to get rid of a nice girl, who's attractive and non-crazy.

You could go a lifetime and not find that.

King Rudi · 10-26-2018, 01:26 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Alfisti

I'd be very, very reticent to get rid of a nice girl, who's attractive and non-crazy.

You could go a lifetime and not find that.

This! My current girlfriend is attractive, intelligent, loyal and all around a good person. Are there other qualities I would like for her to have? Yes; however, these other qualities also come at a cost that I am not willing to put up with. I'm not in love to the point where I feel like I need to be around her every minute of my day but I love and respect her for who she is. Could I find hotter? Maybe; but hotter would probably be less intelligent and likely to cheat. I'm happy with what I have because I used common sense versus letting my heart or dick think for me.

UncleWede · 10-26-2018, 01:36 PM

aozer It usually comes down to a balancing act. Do the positives outweigh the negatives by enough for you to consider investing your time.

i.e. My first wife left me. I was so worried I would be a crazy cat-guy, lonely and by myself. I wanted people around, family, etc. Even then my mom warned me "Be careful what you wish for"

Now with the second wife, she has 1/2 her siblings that live in the same town, then 3/4 of their kids live here too. I can barely take a shit without SOMEONE being around my house.

Wouldn't have it any other way. . .

bimmette · 10-26-2018, 01:53 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by aozer

Quote:

Originally Posted by Never_Enough

You don't know why? You sound young.

The grass is always greener on the other side...till you get there.

Why did it take a month for you to not be "feeling it"?

I’m 29, so idk if that is young or not. Sometimes things change and you can grow into liking somebody. I gave it some time because I’m not gonna completely dismiss somebody just because I’m not head over heels obsessed upon first meeting. I don’t believe in that fairy tale bullshit.

I think she sounds like a great person and you gave it a good try but it's time to move on. Chemistry is very important and you shouldn't settle. I once dated a guy I met online, actually a cop and probably the best looking guy I met online, and he was a great guy. But we just lacked chemistry and eventually we just ended it nicely. No point dragging it on. I'm sure she will be heartbroken but just be really nice about it.

CTinline-six · 10-26-2018, 02:05 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by bimmette

I think she sounds like a great person and you gave it a good try but it's time to move on. Chemistry is very important and you shouldn't settle. I once dated a guy I met online, actually a cop and probably the best looking guy I met online, and he was a great guy. But we just lacked chemistry and eventually we just ended it nicely. No point dragging it on. I'm sure she will be heartbroken but just be really nice about it.

This is a good point, and it really depends on your reasoning for wanting to leave. If there is no chemistry that is one thing, and usually something that won't improve. If it's because you think you can find someone hotter/better, then well... take your chances I guess.

nyalpine90 · 10-26-2018, 02:19 PM

you dont know what you have until its gone...

then comes

all of the i shouldve....... too late.

Never_Enough · 10-26-2018, 02:21 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by aozer

I’m 29, so idk if that is young or not. Sometimes things change and you can grow into liking somebody. I gave it some time because I’m not gonna completely dismiss somebody just because I’m not head over heels obsessed upon first meeting. I don’t believe in that fairy tale bullshit.

Good b/c fairy tale bs is TV & books.

You didn't really answer me, though. Why are you not feeling it?

Never_Enough · 10-26-2018, 02:25 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by bimmette

I think she sounds like a great person and you gave it a good try but it's time to move on. Chemistry is very important and you shouldn't settle. I once dated a guy I met online, actually a cop and probably the best looking guy I met online, and he was a great guy. But we just lacked chemistry and eventually we just ended it nicely. No point dragging it on. I'm sure she will be heartbroken but just be really nice about it.

He hasn't even told us why he isn't feeling it nor do we know the whole relationship. He could be making a big mistake & that is what it sounds like to me.

Just b/c it's not tearing clothes off like wild animals daily or something does not = no chemistry. Like many other posters said, I'd be careful about tossing this one away if she is indeed as good as he says. He needs to sort out his head. He doesn't even know why. Sounds like another case of thinking with the penis and/or wanting nonsense till you get it then oops I should have stayed with the other girl!

bimmette · 10-26-2018, 02:27 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Never_Enough

Quote:

Originally Posted by bimmette

I think she sounds like a great person and you gave it a good try but it's time to move on. Chemistry is very important and you shouldn't settle. I once dated a guy I met online, actually a cop and probably the best looking guy I met online, and he was a great guy. But we just lacked chemistry and eventually we just ended it nicely. No point dragging it on. I'm sure she will be heartbroken but just be really nice about it.

He hasn't even told us why he isn't feeling it nor do we know the whole relationship. He could be making a big mistake & that is what it sounds like to me.

Just b/c it's not tearing clothes off like wild animals daily or something does not = no chemistry. Like many other posters said, I'd be careful about tossing this one away of she is indeed as good as he says. He needs to sort out his head. He doesn't even know why. Sounds like another case of thinking with the penis and/or wanting nonsense till you get it then oops I should have stayed with the other girl!

Well I wouldn't want to be with a guy who wasn't sure about me and just felt kinda meh. Sometimes there is no reason why.

Never_Enough · 10-26-2018, 02:29 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by bimmette

Well I wouldn't want to be with a guy who wasn't sure about me and just felt kinda meh. Sometimes there is no reason why.

I wouldn't either.

There's always a reason. Sometimes it's legit & sometimes not. If there's no reason at all for leaving a good man/woman then you need therapy & to not be dating anyone.

bimmette · 10-26-2018, 02:34 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Never_Enough

Quote:

Originally Posted by bimmette

Well I wouldn't want to be with a guy who wasn't sure about me and just felt kinda meh. Sometimes there is no reason why.

I wouldn't either.

There's always a reason. Sometimes it's legit & sometimes not. If there's no reason at all for leaving a good man/woman then you need therapy & to not be dating anyone.

I was gonna say that's not fair because in my case there was no reason and I don't need therapy. But no, you're right. Now that I think about it, the cop guy wasn't funny enough.

Never_Enough · 10-26-2018, 02:35 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by bimmette

I was gonna say that's not fair because in my case there was no reason and I don't need therapy. But no, you're right. Now that I think about it, the cop guy wasn't funny enough.

Wasn't funny enough? This I need to hear.

bimmette · 10-26-2018, 02:38 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Never_Enough

Quote:

Originally Posted by bimmette

I was gonna say that's not fair because in my case there was no reason and I don't need therapy. But no, you're right. Now that I think about it, the cop guy wasn't funny enough.

Wasn't funny enough? This I need to hear.

Great sense of humor is the most important characteristic I look for in a guy. Quick wit is a good indicator of intelligence.

Never_Enough · 10-26-2018, 02:43 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by bimmette

Great sense of humor is the most important characteristic I look for in a guy. Quick wit is a good indicator of intelligence.

I want that in a lady too, but I'm wondering what made him "not funny enough"

bimmette · 10-26-2018, 02:45 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Never_Enough

Quote:

Originally Posted by bimmette

Great sense of humor is the most important characteristic I look for in a guy. Quick wit is a good indicator of intelligence.

I want that in a lady too, but I'm wondering what made him "not funny enough"

It's pretty simple. Does he make me laugh a lot? If no, then he's not funny.

Never_Enough · 10-26-2018, 02:58 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by bimmette

It's pretty simple. Does he make me laugh a lot? If no, then he's not funny.

Ok well we all have a different sense of humor.

Did he not make enough fart jokes? Farts are always funny.

bimmette · 10-26-2018, 03:00 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Never_Enough

Quote:

Originally Posted by bimmette

It's pretty simple. Does he make me laugh a lot? If no, then he's not funny.

Ok well we all have a different sense of humor.

Did he not make enough fart jokes? Farts are always funny.

Ah. Fart jokes are not funny.

Never_Enough · 10-26-2018, 03:03 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by bimmette

Ah. Fart jokes are not funny.

There's your problem. Farts are indeed always funny.

10-26-2018, 01:03 PM	#885
Alfisti Brigadier General 7058 Rep 3,325 Posts Drives: 2008 Saab 9-3 Combi Join Date: Nov 2014 Location: Toronto, Canada iTrader: (0)	I'd be very, very reticent to get rid of a nice girl, who's attractive and non-crazy. You could go a lifetime and not find that.
	Appreciate 8 King Rudi13079.50 deleted_397282_c43ae5ea84160.50 CTinline-six6941.50 upstatedoc7545.50 Never_Enough2241.50 Turkish Pickle3057.50 Germanauto9847.50 Kyngofpop641.00 Quote

10-26-2018, 01:36 PM	#887
UncleWede Long Time Admirer, First Time Owner 18603 Rep 9,436 Posts Drives: G01 X3 M40i Dark Graphite Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Oxnard, CA iTrader: (0)	aozer It usually comes down to a balancing act. Do the positives outweigh the negatives by enough for you to consider investing your time. i.e. My first wife left me. I was so worried I would be a crazy cat-guy, lonely and by myself. I wanted people around, family, etc. Even then my mom warned me "Be careful what you wish for" Now with the second wife, she has 1/2 her siblings that live in the same town, then 3/4 of their kids live here too. I can barely take a shit without SOMEONE being around my house. Wouldn't have it any other way. . .
	Appreciate 2 deleted_397282_c43ae5ea84160.50 wrickem2204.50 Quote

10-26-2018, 02:19 PM	#890
nyalpine90 Lieutenant General 7568 Rep 11,949 Posts Drives: MY24 G01 AW Msport Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: L.I. NY iTrader: (4) Garage List 2016 BMW X4 [9.25]	you dont know what you have until its gone... then comes all of the i shouldve....... too late.
	Appreciate 2 Never_Enough2241.50 King Rudi13079.50 Quote