[Sedan_Clan]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

Yeah, I think we both failed on that. As we got to talking it became apparent that she wasn't doing good by being with me in this relationship, either.

I'm ok! Means a lot that you guys are concerned about my well being, much appreciated. I am alive (so far), I understand the concerns through her mom, as lately they have been elevated for me too. Also big red flag to note that online people have been concerned about my wellbeing through a break up. Probably should've caught that before she moved in with me.

I walk in from work and the tension is in the air. Conversation starts off by her asking if I wanted to be with her. I said yes to hear what she had to say. I heard what I wasn't giving her as a boyfriend. I told on what I was expecting out of a girlfriend. There was a surprising amount of overlap. It went "south" when I asked her to describe what she loved about me and why she was trying to work things out still. It really hit me that I was not getting inspired to be and do better by her. I'm glad she was getting that out of me, but I wasn't. Went from there, really.

So about this - it's kinda sticky. I asked her what she wanted to do, she said she'd want to stay the weekend to work things out for herself. Inflated the air mattress I got when I first moved in, gave a few pillows, and we've been antisocial with each other since. Had dinner last night after officially ending stuff at her favorite pizza place, I think I'm helping her pack her car tomorrow/sunday.

Shoot me your info in case you come up missing. I'll call in the calvary.

[Joekerr]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

Yeah, I think we both failed on that. As we got to talking it became apparent that she wasn't doing good by being with me in this relationship, either.









I'm ok! Means a lot that you guys are concerned about my well being, much appreciated. I am alive (so far), I understand the concerns through her mom, as lately they have been elevated for me too. Also big red flag to note that online people have been concerned about my wellbeing through a break up. Probably should've caught that before she moved in with me.

I walk in from work and the tension is in the air. Conversation starts off by her asking if I wanted to be with her. I said yes to hear what she had to say. I heard what I wasn't giving her as a boyfriend. I told on what I was expecting out of a girlfriend. There was a surprising amount of overlap. It went "south" when I asked her to describe what she loved about me and why she was trying to work things out still. It really hit me that I was not getting inspired to be and do better by her. I'm glad she was getting that out of me, but I wasn't. Went from there, really.

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Pretty please - can you play "enter sandman" and really listen to the lyrics just before you fall asleep? Bonus points for blasting it out loud so she can hear and worry about your mental state!

[upstatedoc]

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[Mein11]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

Yeah, I think we both failed on that. As we got to talking it became apparent that she wasn't doing good by being with me in this relationship, either.

So about this - it's kinda sticky. I asked her what she wanted to do, she said she'd want to stay the weekend to work things out for herself. Inflated the air mattress I got when I first moved in, gave a few pillows, and we've been antisocial with each other since. Had dinner last night after officially ending stuff at her favorite pizza place, I think I'm helping her pack her car tomorrow/sunday.

There's nothing wrong with the first point. It's easy to say it's the other person, and hard to reflect on ourselves and the things we need to improve on as individuals. Learn from it, be better from it.

It will be like that, there's no easy way of breaking things off when living together. Honestly one of the shittiest feelings I've ever had. However, the shitty feelings struggling through every other issue was no longer a key point of stress in life. Keep your head up, do what you can to be cordial and accommodating so you both can move on with your lives on a "positive" note. Good things come to those who put good out.

[driftqueen]

Ok, here's one:

met a guy at yogurtland. Totally put together, nice ride (but mine is better)- deal breaker- not yet.

On the first date, he asks what I do(career), then has the NERVE to ask me to refill his prescription medications!! I entertained him and asked what he is taking............................................ .................................................. .......

3 anti-psychotic meds- went to the bathroom and left through the emergency exit in the back.

take aways:
1. drive your own car to the meeting place.
2. make sure they bring their med list (screening purposes).

[fiveohwblow]

Originally Posted by driftqueen

Ok, here's one:

met a guy at yogurtland. Totally put together, nice ride (but mine is better)- deal breaker- not yet.

On the first date, he asks what I do(career), then has the NERVE to ask me to refill his prescription medications!! I entertained him and asked what he is taking............................................ .................................................. .......

3 anti-psychotic meds- went to the bathroom and left through the emergency exit in the back.

take aways:
1. drive your own car to the meeting place.
2. make sure they bring their med list (screening purposes).

How could one be so daft in sharing this information flippantly? Why would he need you versus his normal methods of refill? Either way, welcome to the thread

[Sedan_Clan]

Originally Posted by driftqueen

Ok, here's one:

met a guy at yogurtland. Totally put together, nice ride (but mine is better)- deal breaker- not yet.

On the first date, he asks what I do(career), then has the NERVE to ask me to refill his prescription medications!! I entertained him and asked what he is taking............................................ .................................................. .......

3 anti-psychotic meds- went to the bathroom and left through the emergency exit in the back.

take aways:
1. drive your own car to the meeting place.
2. make sure they bring their med list (screening purposes).

Welcome to the thread driftqueen


You dodged a bullet. I'm surprised he was so forthright. I mean, I appreciate his candor, but……damn.

P.S. I'm in Rancho. You're not too far from me.

[CTinline-six]

Originally Posted by driftqueen

Ok, here's one:

met a guy at yogurtland. Totally put together, nice ride (but mine is better)- deal breaker- not yet.

On the first date, he asks what I do(career), then has the NERVE to ask me to refill his prescription medications!! I entertained him and asked what he is taking............................................ .................................................. .......

3 anti-psychotic meds- went to the bathroom and left through the emergency exit in the back.

take aways:
1. drive your own car to the meeting place.
2. make sure they bring their med list (screening purposes).

That's not a date, that is a druggie hitting you up for money.


So here's one for the crew:

I'm back on the dating apps, and feel a little guilty. I went on a date with a latina chick. Smoking body, a year younger than me, super nice, hard worker, but it's clear that there is a language barrier. I'm going on a second date just to see if maybe being nervous made it a bit harder for her since English isn't her first language, but I did feel that it impacted the connection a bit. I'm usually good at understanding people with accents, as the running joke at work is calling my team the united nations, since we have people from all different backgrounds, but this has been a tough one for me and something I never expected.

[Sedan_Clan]

Originally Posted by CTinline-six

That's not a date, that is a druggie hitting you up for money.


So here's one for the crew:

I'm back on the dating apps, and feel a little guilty. I went on a date with a latina chick. Smoking body, a year younger than me, super nice, hard worker, but it's clear that there is a language barrier. I'm going on a second date just to see if maybe being nervous made it a bit harder for her since English isn't her first language, but I did feel that it impacted the connection a bit. I'm usually good at understanding people with accents, as the running joke at work is calling my team the united nations, since we have people from all different backgrounds, but this has been a tough one for me and something I never expected.

I say……give it a bit. She may bring something to the table that you have yet to discover. I speak Brazilian Portuguese, and even still, dating a Brazilian (…or Latina) still provides a different experience. It could be fun!

Pega a gatinha!

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by driftqueen

Ok, here's one:

met a guy at yogurtland. Totally put together, nice ride (but mine is better)- deal breaker- not yet.

On the first date, he asks what I do(career), then has the NERVE to ask me to refill his prescription medications!! I entertained him and asked what he is taking............................................ .................................................. .......

3 anti-psychotic meds- went to the bathroom and left through the emergency exit in the back.

take aways:
1. drive your own car to the meeting place.
2. make sure they bring their med list (screening purposes).

Welcome! From what I saw of your car in the "Look at what I'm growing" thread....you're most likely always going to have the issue of "my car is nicer than yours"....damn. Nice ride btw.

So you asked what he was taking and didn't actually see the script? I see two possible scenarios. 1.) He was messing with you. Honestly, I probably would have done the same just to see your reaction. 2.) He was serious. I highly doubt this as he would not have been so flippant about what he was taking. I would have thrown valtrax in that list too. You walked away too fast. You had either a really quick witted, funny guy on your hands or a complete idiot. I suppose in this situation, walking was the right thing to do as not worth the gamble.

I do, however; think that you should have given him another few minutes. I feel like the punch-line was on it's way. (i.e. When people make comments like "You look so familiar" I usually reply with "I'm on the radio" (people have no clue how to take that) or "Do you watch a lot of porn?"

Originally Posted by Sedan_Clan

Welcome to the thread driftqueen


You dodged a bullet. I'm surprised he was so forthright. I mean, I appreciate his candor, but……damn.

P.S. I'm in Rancho. You're not too far from me.

Didn't realize you were in Rancho. We just sold our facility there. I was about to ask if you heard about our fire there last year, but I was mistaken, the fire was in Stockton.

[Sedan_Clan]

Originally Posted by King Rudi

Welcome! From what I saw of your car in the "Look at what I'm growing" thread....you're most likely always going to have the issue of "my car is nicer than yours"....damn. Nice ride btw.

So you asked what he was taking and didn't actually see the script? I see two possible scenarios. 1.) He was messing with you. Honestly, I probably would have done the same just to see your reaction. 2.) He was serious. I highly doubt this as he would not have been so flippant about what he was taking. I would have thrown valtrax in that list too. You walked away too fast. You had either a really quick witted, funny guy on your hands or a complete idiot. I suppose in this situation, walking was the right thing to do as not worth the gamble.

I do, however; think that you should have given him another few minutes. I feel like the punch-line was on it's way. (i.e. When people make comments like "You look so familiar" I usually reply with "I'm on the radio" (people have no clue how to take that) or "Do you watch a lot of porn?"

Didn't realize you were in Rancho. We just sold our facility there. I was about to ask if you heard about our fire there last year, but I was mistaken, the fire was in Stockton.

Yeah, I'm right by Victoria Gardens. What type of facility was it?

[upstatedoc]

Originally Posted by driftqueen

Ok, here's one:

met a guy at yogurtland. Totally put together, nice ride (but mine is better)- deal breaker- not yet.

On the first date, he asks what I do(career), then has the NERVE to ask me to refill his prescription medications!! I entertained him and asked what he is taking............................................ .................................................. .......

3 anti-psychotic meds- went to the bathroom and left through the emergency exit in the back.

take aways:
1. drive your own car to the meeting place.
2. make sure they bring their med list (screening purposes).

Well hey now

[Sedan_Clan]

Originally Posted by upstatedoc

Well hey now

Waits for the first smooth line from the debonair upstatedoc to be lobbed in driftqueen 's direction.

I'm in for the LOLz.

[upstatedoc]

Originally Posted by Sedan_Clan

Waits for the first smooth line from the debonair upstatedoc to be lobbed in driftqueen 's direction.

I'm in for the LOLz.

Well, I'm not on any antipsychotics. That should be a plus.

[Sedan_Clan]

Originally Posted by upstatedoc

Well, I'm not on any antipsychotics. That should be a plus.

True! ….just the casual qualuud use for the funtities.

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by Sedan_Clan

Yeah, I'm right by Victoria Gardens. What type of facility was it?

Stockton was our tomato processing plant where the fire was. Our Rancho facility was a vinegar/cooking wine processing plant.

[Joekerr]

Originally Posted by upstatedoc

Well, I'm not on any antipsychotics. That should be a plus.

It isn't if you are supposed to be on them and aren't... you sort of glossed over that small but extremely important detail.

[Chihuahua]

Originally Posted by King Rudi

So you asked what he was taking and didn't actually see the script? I see two possible scenarios. 1.) He was messing with you. Honestly, I probably would have done the same just to see your reaction. 2.) He was serious. I highly doubt this as he would not have been so flippant about what he was taking.

I agree with KR, I think this guy probably has a dry, sarcastic sense of humor and was messing with you. I'm this way and I find it to be a great ice breaker. If they get the joke then we'll get on well, and if not at least I got a laugh out of it. I like fucking with people, but never in a mean-spirited way. It's a great filtering mechanism. I once told someone I had just met, in a deadpan tone, that I was a grey alien masquerading as a human and would like to create a race of hybrid beings with her and rule earth.

[Tambohamilton]

Originally Posted by Chihuahua

I agree with KR, I think this guy probably has a dry, sarcastic sense of humor and was messing with you. I'm this way and I find it to be a great ice breaker. If they get the joke then we'll get on well, and if not at least I got a laugh out of it. I like fucking with people, but never in a mean-spirited way. It's a great filtering mechanism. I once told someone I had just met, in a deadpan tone, that I was a grey alien masquerading as a human and would like to create a race of hybrid beings with her and rule earth.

......don't keep us hanging man!

[UncleWede]

Originally Posted by Tambohamilton

......don't keep us hanging man!

ONCE

[Tambohamilton]

Originally Posted by UncleWede

ONCE

Either means she liked it so he hasn't needed to say it again, or it didn't work out so he decided not to say it again