Why can't people just be straight forward with you?

thedean786 · 02-15-2008, 11:14 AM

Seriously....why can't people just be honest and up front about how they feel rather than play these stupid idiotic games? I find it ironic that on one hand everyone wants people in their lives that will be honest and upfront with them but when push come to shove they play stupid 4th grade type games.

renegade · 02-15-2008, 11:16 AM

I feel ya, and don't know if it's related but it is kind of hard rejecting someone to their face - lol

naw but seriously, everybody plays games - it's just one of those things you have to circumvent by noticing other signals that don't lie - like body language

gonzo · 02-15-2008, 11:18 AM

Can you straightforwardly tell us what you are talking about?

Sal@AUTOcouture · 02-15-2008, 11:27 AM

ur talkin about a chick arent you

!Xoible · 02-15-2008, 11:29 AM

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Originally Posted by thedean786

Seriously....why can't people just be honest and up front about how they feel rather than play these stupid idiotic games? I find it ironic that on one hand everyone wants people in their lives that will be honest and upfront with them but when push come to shove they play stupid 4th grade type games.

i guess somebody didnt get laid on vday

just4kickz · 02-15-2008, 11:53 AM

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Originally Posted by Z06_Socrates

52 post per day? How in the heck?

PW post whore

Revlis · 02-15-2008, 02:18 PM

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Originally Posted by thedean786

Seriously....why can't people just be honest and up front about how they feel rather than play these stupid idiotic games? I find it ironic that on one hand everyone wants people in their lives that will be honest and upfront with them but when push come to shove they play stupid 4th grade type games.

Many times it's due to plain old fear of confrontation, or a desire NOT to hurt another's feelings...

Kind of weak sauce but I believe that this is the case many times.

It's hard as hell to get straight answers.

Hawkeye · 02-15-2008, 02:23 PM

To be straightforward. I really don't like that roundel in your sig Revlis... that is newly added isn't it?

Ru$$ell · 02-15-2008, 02:26 PM

To be straightforward hawkeye,your sig has to much crap in it....

lol,jk man

JCLBoston · 02-15-2008, 02:26 PM

looks like someone had a rough valentine's day...

gonzo · 02-15-2008, 03:37 PM

I wish she would have been straight forward when she told me her tubes were tied.

Alpine · 02-15-2008, 03:41 PM

Because people nowadays have no backbone whatsoever.

However, if it's a female you're talking about... pshh, your guess is as good as mine. I'll never figure out why my girl does certain things, acts a certain way, or plays the little guessing games of what's wrong- especially when I have to just figure everything out by the facial expression she gives me, even though they all look the same. It's a mystery to me!

Revlis · 02-15-2008, 07:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Hawkeye

To be straightforward. I really don't like that roundel in your sig Revlis... that is newly added isn't it?

And I don't give a shit what you think...

Now, see how easy it is to be straightforward?

Seriously though, roundel has always been there.

thedean786 · 02-16-2008, 11:36 AM

Well I guess some background is needed.

So I met this girl from east coast at a little party last summer here in the city. We exchanged #'s and every now a then we would txt each other just to see how the other person is doing nothing serious just being nice that's all. Well a few weeks ago I emailed her - like I had many times before just to see what's up. Usually we talk for a day or two and that's the end of it. But this time we started talking everyday - sometimes twice a day - but in much more detail - family, job, friends, what we like to do etc. I thought things were going well we had the same sense of humor similar values etc.

Then last weekend it all stopped and I didn't here anything from her. So I laid low and let a few days go by. On Wednesday I sent her a short note saying hello and seeing how her week was going. And then yesterday I get a message - just 3 lines - work is fine, she's busy, and good luck with my projects. That's it - no opening for me to reply or anything so now I'm kind of scratching my head wondering what that hell happened.

hansyes · 02-16-2008, 11:56 AM

Come on mate, you met her at some party.. think it as easy come, easy go..

!Xoible · 02-16-2008, 12:00 PM

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Originally Posted by thedean786

Well I guess some background is needed.

So I met this girl from east coast at a little party last summer here in the city. We exchanged #'s and every now a then we would txt each other just to see how the other person is doing nothing serious just being nice that's all. Well a few weeks ago I emailed her - like I had many times before just to see what's up. Usually we talk for a day or two and that's the end of it. But this time we started talking everyday - sometimes twice a day - but in much more detail - family, job, friends, what we like to do etc. I thought things were going well we had the same sense of humor similar values etc.

Then last weekend it all stopped and I didn't here anything from her. So I laid low and let a few days go by. On Wednesday I sent her a short note saying hello and seeing how her week was going. And then yesterday I get a message - just 3 lines - work is fine, she's busy, and good luck with my projects. That's it - no opening for me to reply or anything so now I'm kind of scratching my head wondering what that hell happened.

reply with "u okay"? i text girls the same way man... im very dry on txt just coz im super lazy and dont feel like typing on a phone pad.

maybe she's stressing and she needs help.

so this is like a LD relationship? if it is then what happened is normal man.. out of sight, out of mind

!Xoible · 02-16-2008, 12:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Z06_Socrates

52 post per day? How in the heck?

knock

on

woooood

ironjw · 02-16-2008, 01:24 PM

my experience... women are never straight forward!! so my advice: stop giving a f*ck about her and move on!! theres nothing between you guys!

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thedean786 A Herald of Doom 229 Rep 230 Posts Drives: A Fancy Car Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Midwest iTrader: (0)	Why can't people just be straight forward with you? Seriously....why can't people just be honest and up front about how they feel rather than play these stupid idiotic games? I find it ironic that on one hand everyone wants people in their lives that will be honest and upfront with them but when push come to shove they play stupid 4th grade type games. __________________
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renegade Private 9 Rep 67 Posts Drives: '06 330i Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: in a spot with Patrón shots swimming in lime iTrader: (0)	I feel ya, and don't know if it's related but it is kind of hard rejecting someone to their face - lol naw but seriously, everybody plays games - it's just one of those things you have to circumvent by noticing other signals that don't lie - like body language
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Alpine Major 50 Rep 1,433 Posts Drives: e90 330i Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Nashville, TN iTrader: (5) Garage List 2006 330i [0.00]	Because people nowadays have no backbone whatsoever. However, if it's a female you're talking about... pshh, your guess is as good as mine. I'll never figure out why my girl does certain things, acts a certain way, or plays the little guessing games of what's wrong- especially when I have to just figure everything out by the facial expression she gives me, even though they all look the same. It's a mystery to me! __________________
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thedean786 A Herald of Doom 229 Rep 230 Posts Drives: A Fancy Car Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Midwest iTrader: (0)	Well I guess some background is needed. So I met this girl from east coast at a little party last summer here in the city. We exchanged #'s and every now a then we would txt each other just to see how the other person is doing nothing serious just being nice that's all. Well a few weeks ago I emailed her - like I had many times before just to see what's up. Usually we talk for a day or two and that's the end of it. But this time we started talking everyday - sometimes twice a day - but in much more detail - family, job, friends, what we like to do etc. I thought things were going well we had the same sense of humor similar values etc. Then last weekend it all stopped and I didn't here anything from her. So I laid low and let a few days go by. On Wednesday I sent her a short note saying hello and seeing how her week was going. And then yesterday I get a message - just 3 lines - work is fine, she's busy, and good luck with my projects. That's it - no opening for me to reply or anything so now I'm kind of scratching my head wondering what that hell happened. __________________
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ironjw Major 34 Rep 1,416 Posts Drives: 2007 335i Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: 818 iTrader: (0) Garage List 2007 335i [0.00]	my experience... women are never straight forward!! so my advice: stop giving a f*ck about her and move on!! theres nothing between you guys!
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