[BellasBmw]

Hey Guys- need opinions

Heres the background. My buddy from class has finally admitted he has a crush on me. He took me out to lunch last friday and we had a good time. Im not super attracted to his looks, but his personality is great. He paid for everything, picked me up, walked me to my door.. the whole nine (Unlike my sea world nightmare). Hes 22, his parents are flithy rich. He just bought his first condo $450K. He made money from investing his inheritance. His parents are still married after 36 years, and hes very family orientated.

Anyway, the other night we were talking about traveling. He said that he would love to go to italy, and i said yea its beautiful. We well started kidding around, and we ended up talking about really going to italy this summer. I told him i didnt have the money, and he said that he would basically take care of it. He looked up tickets and the airfare will be $2,400. He told me to give him $400 and we're cool. He'd pay the rest. We're thinking about 7-10 days. He told me to pick a date sometime this summer. Possibly july

My mom is actually ok with it, cause well.. you live once, and she's met him before and thinks hes a nice guy. My dad was tripping about the fact "well what does he expect in return??" I asked my friend that, and he said hey im not that ugly, i dont need to pay $5K to get laid.

Anyway, so what do you all think? Take the opportunity and just do it. Or... am i nuts?

[yu]

Do it!@#$ Get him to buy you an M6 while you're at it.

[NaTuReB0Y]

He made you pay $400.........what a jerk!

[BellasBmw]

Originally Posted by NaTuReB0Y

He made you pay $400.........what a jerk!

Are you serious? LoL.. thats the least i could do. The trip is gonna run him around $5-7K.

[NaTuReB0Y]

Just be careful.......it's not a scam.

If something sounds too good to be true.........nevermind.
make sure he gives you your ticket after the purchase........

so if you guys ended up like sour milk before july....you can still go to italy!

[BellasBmw]

Originally Posted by NaTuReB0Y

Just be careful.......it's not a scam.

If something sounds too good to be true.........nevermind.
make sure he gives you your ticket after the purchase........

so if you guys ended up like sour milk before july....you can still go to italy!

Yea.. well hes waiting on my answer cause he needs to get his passport done.

[magmd]

oooooo....tough question.

I have found that you really need to get along with someone when going on travels. Tempers can go kinda weird. If you indeed get along with him and think that it would be cool...well, maybe you should go for it.

Just...you gotta understand that he is going to expect some hook up action for sure!!!! I mean, going to europe...paying for everything...and no action If you do not mind hooking up while in europe...hey, like you said...you only live once. You are young, enjoy it while you can. But if you do not see yourself getting friendly with him...........just be ready for the trip to go

Ooo...and yeah, although he does not have to shell out $$ to get laid...... it sure does help, when it comes to mami buenas!

[BiggieJ]

Originally Posted by BellasBmw

Hey Guys- need opinions

Heres the background. My buddy from class has finally admitted he has a crush on me. He took me out to lunch last friday and we had a good time. Im not super attracted to his looks, but his personality is great. He paid for everything, picked me up, walked me to my door.. the whole nine (Unlike my sea world nightmare). Hes 22, his parents are flithy rich. He just bought his first condo $450K. He made money from investing his inheritance. His parents are still married after 36 years, and hes very family orientated.

Anyway, the other night we were talking about traveling. He said that he would love to go to italy, and i said yea its beautiful. We well started kidding around, and we ended up talking about really going to italy this summer. I told him i didnt have the money, and he said that he would basically take care of it. He looked up tickets and the airfare will be $2,400. He told me to give him $400 and we're cool. He'd pay the rest. We're thinking about 7-10 days. He told me to pick a date sometime this summer. Possibly july

My mom is actually ok with it, cause well.. you live once, and she's met him before and thinks hes a nice guy. My dad was tripping about the fact "well what does he expect in return??" I asked my friend that, and he said hey im not that ugly, i dont need to pay $5K to get laid.

Anyway, so what do you all think? Take the opportunity and just do it. Or... am i nuts?

well i think it all depends on expectations. what are you expecting out of the trip and do you think itll match his expectations...and if theyre different do you think you guys are cool enough to get along or will it ruin your relationship (friend or otherwise).

i think you guys need to be clear on what you want out of this trip, stated or implied. from a guys point of view, regardless of what he says, hes hoping to advance your budding relationship. if your cool with that then by all means have a great trip. but if your unsure then i would advise aginst the trip for the guys sake. i personally think its pretty clear what he wants (its not even about the money, its the principle of it all.) so the decision is all about what you want/need out of this... but dont forget to consider his wants/needs.

if you asking my personal opinion: its one helluva proposition - but i dont know if i can handle that kind of pressure. i would be too busy trying to keep the person whose paid for this happy without compremising my boundires. but its still a couple of months down the line. hell if i dated a girl for couple of months and had this opportunity, i couldnt pass up that deal. either way this is a problem im sure anybody would love to have.

thatll be five bucks, please. damn im good.

[BMW F22]

oh man... I would hate for the guy to get his heart broken when he finds out you're moving to NY (assuming things will work out between you guys). I think it's wrong to string someone along when you know you're not gonna b in town much longer. That's my pitch.


EDIT: just read BiggieJ's post and completely agree with him

[AComp]

"TANSTAAFL" TANSTAAFL is an acronym for the adage "There Ain't No Such Thing As A Free Lunch"...

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/TANSTAAFL

Think it through. It may be a totally innocent thing, but I'm a suspicious type when it comes to people's motivations. I'm thinking people don't just offer something like this "on a whim".

Is it just the two of you? So you're okay being with him most of 24/7? As stated before, traveling brings out the best and worst in people.

How are the travel arrangements set up? Make sure you can book a return flight early - and the ticket is in your possesion.

[aphall]

Biggie J that is...

I couldn't have said it better myself. If you're on the fence about the guy, let him know. It's only fair to him, and if he is still insistent upon taking you there, make it clear to him what you're feeling. On the other hand, he IS taking a pretty big chance on you... and well...

I dunno Bella, just tread lightly... he is definitely going to be expecting big returns.

[BellasBmw]

Originally Posted by BMWE90

oh man... I would hate for the guy to get his heart broken when he finds out you're moving to NY (assuming things will work out between you guys). I think it's wrong to string someone along when you know you're not gonna b in town much longer. That's my pitch.


EDIT: just read BiggieJ's post and completely agree with him

He knows about NYC. And we talked bout expectations. He said we're both going into this with a whatever happens, happens mentality

[BMW F22]

Originally Posted by BellasBmw

He knows about NYC. And we talked bout expectations. He said we're both going into this with a whatever happens, happens mentality

So then when are you packing for the trip?
If that's the case then you have nothing to lose.

[magmd]

Originally Posted by BellasBmw

He knows about NYC. And we talked bout expectations. He said we're both going into this with a whatever happens, happens mentality

I think he is crossing his fingers for a.......

"whatever happens in Italy.......stays in Italy" mentality from you.

[diesel007]

Do it you have nothing to loose and you only live one life. Did you get this approved with Mava?

[BellasBmw]

Well im not that dense, i know if he takes me to italy, well then i should give him ass. Its only fair. I get a free trip to italy, and he gets ... ...

Hmm.. tough call. ha ha

[Robin_NL]

This is how I read it....You're not really physically attracted to him but he has a great personality and his parents are filthy rich....

Antonella what are you doing my poor child

j/k

[BellasBmw]

Originally Posted by Robin Hood

This is how I read it....You're not really physically attracted to him but he has a great personality and his parents are filthy rich....

Antonella what are you doing my poor child

j/k

My first boyfriend was by no means a looker. But he was such a awesome guy .we dated for a year and 1/2, and are still good friends. So really, in the end, its the personality that will snag me

My x bf was gorgeous. But , we had a horrible breakup, and when i sit back and think.. it was physical. We stayed together cause we were hot for each other, not cause we were compatible

[Robin_NL]

Originally Posted by BellasBmw

My first boyfriend was by no means a looker. But he was such a awesome guy .we dated for a year and 1/2, and are still good friends. So really, in the end, its the personality that will snag me

[magmd]

Originally Posted by BellasBmw

Well im not that dense, i know if he takes me to italy, well then i should give him ass. Its only fair. I get a free trip to italy, and he gets ... ...

Hmm.. tough call. ha ha

Yep....you get a free trip...and get some good action. I would go.

[ScBlacksunshine]

This thread is the very reason why Lekis 101 is sooo right on the money

[puck724]

shit give me his number ill go with him.